Notorious micro-tyrannies in the suburban slum…

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In their daily lives, they don’t exist as being women, but as humans reduced only to be unlucky substitutes of their husbands: They are the women living in the suburban barracks or shabby houses of slum areas in Istanbul…

They are hardly literate since most of them had only visited a few grades of primary school. But their television-literacy level is equal to the average value for the entire Turkey! And this circumstance happens to be a resource justifying the only psychological common ground they share with their husbands: “We believe we are the victims of our destinies.” This feeling of being defeated dropouts, brings a new discourse to the speeches of their men, such as “raising a rage against being a victim of status quo, but also being unable to change the situation.”

This rage, that cannot be reflected out in the form of constructive and liberating energy, does inevitably burst out in the form of a violence or humiliation towards the family members. And behind the closed doors of slum area in Istanbul, a micro-fascism prevails, while the resident social-ethic values support these micro-tyrannies…

An average person who believes he/she is a victim, is usually very keen on watching how other people are also sacrificed or deprived of their hopes in the reality shows on the television. This pathetic attitude becomes the way slum residents find entertainment and excitement at home… Now it may be helpful to remember Pir Sultan Abdal, a legendary Sufi poet, and one of his aphorisms reading “There is no wood or fuel in the hell. One brings his own flame.”

In our story about the deprived families, now comes the notorious part: The diligent women of slums go to work in the other people’s houses in the richer or high-society parts of Istanbul, to perform a daily housekeeping job. And they end up making more money than their husbands’ wages, who meanwhile sit back in the barracks or shabby homes in the slums… A certain part of the husbands who allow their wives to work in the richer areas, prefer to sit back home, thanks to this granted and “good” income (yes, the other part of these men feel like hopelessly obliged to sit back, since they really cannot find a job)…

As a part of their very intrinsic nature, men living on their wives’ money, perform a pure vulgarity and a lack of appreciation, and do voluntarily tend to ruin even the slightest possible happiness at the evenings and the nights at home in the slums… Who knows, maybe they just intend to recompansate the pain of unemployment!
Anyway, in most situations, women have no other choice than complaining among each other…

We know that every interpersonal relationship is kind of a game, that is partly based on abusing each other… But there must be something called
“the ethics of usage”
and “the rules of the game”, even in the interpersonal despotisms…

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